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Anne Brock's avatar

Yes, I believe you too. That’s terrifying. I hope this writing offered a release for your mind, body, and soul. Maybe the more of us holding your story with you means you can hold less.

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Brigid May's avatar

I’m finding it has- thank you ♥️♥️

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Anna Gaynes's avatar

I don't know what to say, except I believe you, I believe your friend, I hope that I will always be the friend who believes. Your words are beauty and power. I am so so sorry. You did nothing wrong. You did everything right. Thank you for speaking out.

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Tiffany J Marie's avatar

I'm so glad I waited to read this to give it the space is so immensely deserves.

The story of belief is such a common thread amongst most (if not all) women. From the life destroying experience of Gisèle Pelicot, to your own harrowing and life altering experience with a man who ultimately stole so much from you, to the minor day to day micro aggressions and (warrented) fears we all are forced to carry with us.

Thank you for being vulnerable and vocalizing your experience 🩷 and I'm so sorry these beautiful words ever had to be shared to begin with.

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Anne Sinopoli's avatar

You write so beautifully about such pain. I admire how you articulate the complexity in the duality of such painful experiences. You deserved so much better, and your friend does too. It suppose it's one thing when your house is obviously on fire with flames for all to see. But quite another when no one can see the flames and you have to call someone to tell them. I'm grateful you have trusted us with this story.

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phaira22's avatar

I am so sorry Brigid, that is such a harrowing experience for both you and your friend. I am glad that you each had loved ones to lean on during that time and moving forward. Thank you for sharing, it is so very difficult but also important, you never know who is hearing their own voice reflected in your words.

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Brigid May's avatar

Thanks, Andrea ♥️ And I have been looking at your lovely letter for the last month, getting ready to reply to it. Thank you for always being so wonderful and supportive!

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phaira22's avatar

Yay!! Love getting mail, especially in these ‘electronic times’, there is something nostalgic about sending/receiving mail, looking forward to it. 🥰

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Micah Brunner's avatar

I read this earlier in the week and haven't been able to come up with the right words for a comment (and I still don't have them but I'm gonna comment anyway).

WOW.

I am so sorry this happened. It's beyond an "ordeal" or "experience"... it's life-altering. You did everything right and it still went so far. I'm so grateful it ended when/how it did rather than going even a hair further. But so sad that it didn't end when you blocked him on Facebook. I didn't know mental health issues could pull someone so freaking far from reality.

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